Mind's Eye Re: trust

Yes Molly, a very interesting observation. Children are very good at trusting. Children are also very good at being able to forgive. Perhaps it all fits together. Forgiveness keeps trust alive. When I have no reason not to trust someone I try my best to trust them. After all I might as well be positive and hopeful and assume the best instead of the worst. Like giving the benefit of the doubt.  It makes more sense to me to chose positive over negative or hope over despair or good over bad, optimism over pessimism.

But I have problems with forgiving, even though I can rationalize that its best to forgive. After all we live in an imperfect world with imperfect people. And being forgiven is one of the greatest blessings that I have ever experienced. Using that line of reasoning, forgiving someone is one of the greatest gifts you can give someone. So that is what I am personally working on right now- forgiveness, not only forgiving others but also forgiving myself.

In my previous posts on "good and bad" I have wondered about the very heavy imbalance favoring the bad side  that I find regarding "good and the bad" despite nature being itself so balanced. Adults seem to need a very long time to build up trust that can be so easily shattered in a few moments. Adults forget so many good things that are so worthwhile to remember, yet we are held hostage to memories of the bad experiences that would be best to forget.

Forgiveness perhaps is the key to  set us free from the chains of those bad experiences and bad memories. And once freed, perhaps we can be more trusting. After all, when someone trusts us, it is difficult not to trust them back. Lifelong friendships are started by short sparks of trust that seem to open the most closed hearts.

Trust other people whenever you have no reason not to trust them. And if you do have reasons not to trust them, then forgive them.
Trust yourself unless you have a reason not to and if you do have a reason, then forgive yourself and work on yourself  to build up your hope and self confidence.
Listen to your intuitions and trust them no matter how crazy they sound and no matter where they lead you. And if you end up being disappointed; then be patient, forgive and forget.

On Thursday, May 16, 2013 7:15:37 PM UTC+2, Molly wrote:

Every adult I know has trust issues of one kind or another.  Children
are the only people I have seen with complete trust, and not all of
them have it, and most of them lose it somewhere along the line.

Some people always extend trust initially, and then withdraw when
trust has been breached.  Some people think that trust must always be
earned. Steven Covey Jr. thinks that trust is the number one issue in
the work place, and that an office culture cannot be healthy or
successful consistent trust building behaviors extended by all
employees.

An issue with trust can be overt, like not trusting any other person
and thinking that everyone "hurts" or lies or cheats.  Or an issue can
be very subtle, like not trusting that life has anything to offer.

What do you think?

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