Mind's Eye Re: sexual orientation

Well in truth sexual orientation is much more complex than Gay, Straight or Bi.  My eldest son came out as gay about 6 months ago (at long last), and one of my very best and last remaining school chums is a straight man who married a pre-op transgendered woman.  That is to say she still has her penis.  I asked him about the mechanics of their sex life some time ago, and he told me well Lee there is only two holes I can put it in.  To some this would make him gay, he is not though. I called him a bugger and we carried on drinking whiskey and chatting.

On Monday, 10 September 2012 12:35:52 UTC+1, archytas wrote:

I watched some gorillas on television a couple of days back.  An all
male group were practising homosexuality, but then the women moved in
and they reverted to straight.  The alpha appeared to dominate the
sex, but in fact the others got on with life behind his back.  All
very human.  A couple of weeks back I had a bit of a blow out down the
pub.  I was accused by a psycho of fancying his wife - all very ape.

I find sexual orientation pretty boring.  I still get the smarts from
time to time, but find sex as commercially presented dull.  I'd say
each to his or her own if my old job hadn't exposed me to utter
perversion.  I have a mate into bondage and pain and that's his
business.  I can't say the same about sex tourism and child abuse such
as getting sex from young kids by giving them mobile phones.  Most
cultures have abusive sex rings and weird rituals.  I have a
particular disdain for men in skirts waiving incense, pretending
holiness and abusing kids.

I'm a cuddly sort under whatever enigma I present or is (more
accurately I think) perceived by others.  Derrida had it somewhere
that the pen scratching paper is violence.  My favourite sports are
violent (cricket and rugby).  Sex itself is somewhat more violent than
scratching paper with a nib, though our ludic gasps are not usually
about pain.

I'm not at all sure sexual orientation is about straight, gay, lesbian
and so on.  Sue's dog has a thing  for my duffle-coat, teenage legs as
he approaches 'maturity' and is devoted to our female cat.  What
consenting people do between themselves is generally of no account,
though the taboos we have on age and incest are about right.

Genetically, we are close to not needing sexual relations for
reproduction - either sex can, in principle, reproduce without the
other, and again in principle, we could build the 'next model' from
chemical constituents.

I suspect our economic affairs are little more than some sublimated
ape genetics.  I'm interested in how gang-rape and abuse cultures come
about in an attempt to understand how a sexual orientation infringes
emancipation and consenting mutuality - and how we might live free of
the domination of genes over rationality (itself somewhat gene-driven).

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