Mind's Eye Re: Good and bad

I'm not sure the audience is as wide as your estimate rigs.
Technically I am hospitable to any theoretical view from marxism to
fascism - though I tend to dislike theoretical views - and hospitable
to Islamic theory/s in business analysis - and to guests in my
classrooms from all backgrounds. This is easy enough - as easy as
offering to put you up if you were travelling in the UK. The
difficult bit is in reciprocity - here we might think of the Maussian
concept of the gift and many examples in 'stoneage economics' - what
is expect of a guest in return. One gives freely - a few nights stay
is not given for a return of a few nights stay and so on - yet one
does not generally keep giving to inhospitable guests. One can
discuss racism yet not tolerate racists - but to brand people
concerned their opportunities for homes and work are disappearing in
immigration flows as racist who raise these issues with some hatred on
the people taking them is also wrong (particularly if done by
politically correct idiots whose homes and jobs are not under such
threat). Hospitality is sometimes easy, sometimes very hard work, can
be a treat or pain - but is always already reciprocal in intent even
if no commodity exchange is meant. I prefer to be hospitable to you
rigs than tolerant - tolerance has pratronising aspects - and this is
my general approach to things intellectual. It's easy with you as I
like what I hear. I have lost hospitality to politics. Left to typo
as it hits the meaning better than the word I intended!

People hurt us Andrew. We hurt them. Some is intentional some not.
Gossip is often vicious from the pub to academic cloister.
Transactional analysis isn't a bad place to look at how rigs'
"balanced score card" builds up in personal relationships - Eric
Berne's 'Games People Play' is still. the best book. Only friends can
generally hurt us as we come to expect better from them, value them
and so on. Friendship is easily mimicked and sometimes that small
thing you mention may reveal the charade. Sometimes we take things
too hard and should just let an incident wash away. This can be
particularly hard if you've been collecting brown stamps (been shit
on) in too many recent encounters. I used to go to the pub every
Friday to get rid of my collection - but this habit itself became a
brown stamp. I'm not religious but there's lots in forgiveness and
'there but for the grace of god go I'.

On 29 Jan, 19:11, rigs <rigs...@gmail.com> wrote:
> Please define what you mean by "hospitality"- of the individual, the
> group, nations. Thanks. :-)
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> On Jan 29, 5:22 am, archytas <nwte...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > I think the first consideration is hospitality rigs.
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> > On Jan 29, 12:10 am, rigs <rigs...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > At least some had good intentions re empires- maybe that should be
> > > noted. And I believe in good intentions, myself- don't you? It's
> > > likely a project for those two columCouldns of thinking and sorting.
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> > > On Jan 28, 6:41 am, archytas <nwte...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > Good question Andrew - though we could wonder why most people have
> > > > rosy views of the US and British empires, pretty much against the real
> > > > history.
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> > > > On Jan 28, 11:19 am, rigs <rigs...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > > Try being Pollyanna for a day and see how far you get. Or Dr. Pangloss
> > > > > ("Candide")
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> > > > > On Jan 28, 5:11 am, andrew vecsey <andrewvec...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> > > > > > Why do so many of us remember negative feelings easier than positive ones.
> > > > > > Pain over pleasure. Bad news over good news. Why does "bad" overshadow
> > > > > > "good", immorality over morality, despair over hope, pessimism over
> > > > > > optimism. Why does hate appear to be more powerful than love? Why is greed
> > > > > > louder than generosity. Why is destruction of war so much faster than the
> > > > > > building power of peace. Why can one little lie destroy a lifetime of
> > > > > > trust. Why are lies more influential than truth. It all seems so one sided.
> > > > > > Why is that?- Hide quoted text -
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